A mum and a wife and sometimes just me


Monday, 21 March 2016

Project 366: Days 66 - 79

Day 66


Science experiment

Day 67


Bath time

Day 68


Home made fish and chips

Day 69


Super hero crafting 

Day 70


The Diva

Day 71


Reading

Day 72


Morning cuddles

Day 73


Siblings 

Day 74


Learning about Jamaica

Day 75


Last shot before bed time

Day 76


Here she comes.....

Day 77


Morning shenanigans

Day 78


Down time

Day 79


Clever clogs read his library books

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Friday, 11 March 2016

Saying goodbye to baby centre


At the start of my first pregnancy I joined up with Baby Centre, read books and probably underlined and made notes. I was getting prepared after all. It's funny to look back on now.....I honestly had no idea what I was getting into. I still parented pretty much like a headless chicken the first couple of months but lucky me and the wee man finally relaxed about it all and the wee man and I fell into a happy routine. Baby centre has followed us all the way through and so it felt like a milestone when on his 5th birthday I got my last email! It was one of those emails that I used to religiously read, then on the odd occasion then it would mostly get deleted. The email itself started to get less complicated and detailed too. He is no longer my baby, no more a toddler and has said goodbye to preschool status. When I had the diva I quickly forgot what it was like to just parent one and it wasn't until recently that I realised what parenting just a five year old was like. The Diva was settling into nursery and the wee man and I could spend the half term together. It was well easy, not perfect, but the wee man has definately grown up. So many things you no longer have to worry about.... Naps, snacks, having lunch at specific times. He is no longer as quickly distracted and we sat together having the nicest chat and lunch at the café.


Parenting the wee man has changed. The why questions have become a lot more difficult now. He is so busy absorbing and learning new things that he impresses me everyday. The kiss shop has supposedly closed but we get lots of big hugs. So I am happily saying goodbye to baby centre but he will always be my baby anyway.


Monday, 7 March 2016

Project 366: Days 52 - 65

Day 52


"Sniff" Matthew Van Fleet

Day 53


Wee man makes "Writer of the Week"

Day 54


Colomba

Day 55


Even spiderman needs a rest

Day 56

Number sentences 

Day 57

This is homework 

Day 58

What is my brother's is mine

Day 59


Garden play 

Day 60


Never mind the toys inside 

Day 61


My spiderman 

Day 62


Yay

Day 63


Park life 

Day 64


13 months

Day 65


Rugby training

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Monday, 22 February 2016

Project 366 :Days 45 - 51

Day 45


Birthday party celebrations

Day 46


Funny faces

Day 47


Easy Peasy Lemon Squeezy

Day 48


Cream Cheese Fanatic

Day 49


Waiting for her brother to finish his tennis lesson

Day 50


Who needs toys?

Day 51


Birthday boy 

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Sunday, 14 February 2016

Project 366: Days 38 - 44

Day 38


Daddy Hugs

Day 39


Siblings 

Day 40


Pancakes 

Day 41


Evening shenanigans 

Day 42


Interacting with Creepy Crawlies 

Day 43


Pizza night 

Day 44


First shoes

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Sunday, 7 February 2016

Feeding the Diva

This is the type of post that sits in your head but you are not quite sure how to write it, much less give it the right title. The thing is my breastfeeding journey with the diva has been a very large part of my journey as a second time mum. It started the same way like with the wee man, positive. She presented as a good feeder, we had a good latch, all the right things were being said. Yet a week in and I was being told again - the baby has lost too much weight - the baby is still not putting on enough weight. Tired enough from the lack of sleep during the night, craving for whatever rest I could get during the day I had again to express and top up feeds. Thankfully at least this time half an hour of expressing actually produced something. I cried as I could not believe it was happening again. I can't explain that feeling of defeat when you think you might have to give up breastfeeding. As ready as I was to accept that I may have to offer the Diva formula it felt "bad". That's why personally I can't watch videos which shows how natural and "beautiful" breastfeeding is supposed to be. Great if you appreciate and love all the artsy photos of mummies breastfeeding as it is no longer my cup of tea. For me and many other women I met it was hard work. So many stories of sore and bleeding breasts, difficulties with the latch, babies not putting on weight. Sometimes there did not seem to be a specific reason and there certainly weren't any straightforward answers! I joined a group run by my local children's centre and went every Monday. It's probably what got me through those first weeks and here I am a year later still breastfeeding. I am actually here with a Diva who refuses everything except the breast and finds it the best form of comfort but her "attachment" to me is a whole new post! I gave myself time limits... I can do this till 3 months.... Ok I can do this till 6 months. Yet it was constantly meeting other women who too really struggled with breastfeeding that got me through it. Sometimes it just felt like she would never finish a feed and no I don't miss constantly waking throughout the night as sleep deprivation was crazy real for me.



We did both get more confident at it and now that it's not a life sustainer a mum can relax a little. Latching and positioning are finally a worry of the past. Actually the question I get greeted with now is when am I going to stop. Being proud of how far we have come and squeezing those thighs and thinking "gosh this is from my hard work" has maybe made me a bit sensitive of the subject. It's a shame there needs to be any sort of hashtag about normalising breastfeeding because how else is my diva supposed to eat. That part of breastfeeding being natural makes sense as that's what breasts were made for. It's really noones business how you choose to feed your child so I don't take part in the whole breast versus bottle debate. I made my choice though and battled to see it through so when I hear of anyone having an issue of women breastfeeding in public it does pain me. I mean I lost ownership of my breasts long ago, they don't "pop" out when she wants to feed and if you see anything sexual about me feeding my child then you have a problem. I thankfully have never had a problem.


When it comes to parenting your child everything is up for debate and judgment, breastfeeding just one of them. Breast is best or breastfeeding makes your child smarter. There will always be different ideas of what is public and private and people sway in their argument depending on the topic. People will have different comfort zones of how they breastfeed in public. I'm heading back to work and probably leaving my breastfeeding journey behind and thankfully leaving this debate behind. I know though that the diva will give me plenty more to think about and plenty more debates to join in as she has a huge personality and I am sure she will continue to try and get the better of me!


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